There are times
when we “forget” who we are and struggle with how to reconnect with the magical
being we know ourselves to be.
During these
times of forgetting, or feeling ourselves in reaction to the world around us, it is necessary to step out of the
chaos and recalibrate ourselves back into the ability to be present and respond
to life.
There are often signals happening to let us know we are neglecting to support ourselves and we have forgotten to care for our roots. This may look like too many overcommitted days, for others it is a series of emotional overwhelms, and for others, it might be the physical communications of aching bodies or the onset of feeling a cold approaching. In order to make deep and affective changes in our ability to remember, we need to train ourselves to do it differently. We need to spend some time nurturing our roots so we can stretch and grow.
There are often signals happening to let us know we are neglecting to support ourselves and we have forgotten to care for our roots. This may look like too many overcommitted days, for others it is a series of emotional overwhelms, and for others, it might be the physical communications of aching bodies or the onset of feeling a cold approaching. In order to make deep and affective changes in our ability to remember, we need to train ourselves to do it differently. We need to spend some time nurturing our roots so we can stretch and grow.
I suggest the
best way to do this is when we are away
from the fray of work and activity.
Use these quieter times to find our point of stillness, and slowly re-introduce
this calm mastery into those areas when it is most difficult to maintain or
remember.
Here is an
example. When I was younger, with three
adolescent children involved in many school and after school activities, it was
easy to forget how to stay centered and in my mastery. It was imperative to find time in the day
before the chaos started after work and school, to create a balanced, centered
me. Time was difficult to find in my
busy schedule. Yet, I needed time for self nurturing, which
made it the easier to bend and respond to the needs of clients, family, my own
scheduled events, and stay in balanced energy.
To create time
for myself, I walked. I got up early,
before the rest of the house was awake, and took the dog and myself for a long
walk. We did a 3 mile loop, down the
street to the river trail. This took me
along both banks and across two bridges, and back up the steep trail to home. I made sure there were no distractions with
me, no phone, no music, no one to talk to…just me. With each step I let go of the lists in my
head and released the monkey mind, let it untangle from all the pressure of the
day ahead. The only focus was on my
breath, my footsteps, the trees and sounds of the river, and the colors of the
sunrise. I took time at the first bridge
to stop and breathe out all the thoughts that did not work for me, giving them
to the river. Sauntering back to the house
at the end of the walk, there was fullness in my soul and I was in my body and
at peace….Alive, alert, and open to what lie ahead. I felt empowered and curious about the
day. I
felt…..that was the most important part.
I felt my body and my presence in
it.
I successfully
created a bridge from my true self to my outer life by anchoring myself deeply
and feeling the roots of my essence deep into the earth. I taught myself with each day, with each
walk, that I was here, solid, open, and ready for what was possible that day
like a tree in full bloom.
As we uncover
the depth of our skills and gifts of the light and love we have inside, we will have challenges to
how we hold our light open and be truly receptive to being the vehicle we know
we are. Whether it is family
and kids, or work, health, or the constantly shifting energies of these times we can reach down into ourselves and coax our true self forward. This takes intention and practice. Here is a way to break it down into simple
steps
Steps for creating consistent
light.
1.
Notice when your stressors are present and where chaos resides in
your day. Is there a pattern?
2.
Identify the ways that stressors can create chaos and how it feels
in your body and what your triggers might be.
Is this physical within your body, environmental, or person oriented?
3.
Notice where there are spaces of time available around these
stress areas. What times are under your
control?
4.
Start small and create some free, non stress time to cultivate
internal peace, confidence, and trust in your gifts. Pay attention to what opens you up to inner
peace and what relaxes you into your body.
5.
Practice the tools of creating peace and transfer these tools into
the stressful times. Transfer your peace
into the chaos.
6.
Pay attention. Notice what
blocks you from transferring the peace.
Notice what calms the chaos.
Notice, adjust, build, and feel.
7.
From this place of balance, hold steady and step further into
leadership, step into your full ability of being.
As we ground in the tools that stabilize us
and use them, they hold us steady. When
we are steady, we are open and receptive beings of light, shining out in all
directions….like the glimmering leaves on a beautiful tree, dancing in the
sunshine, spreading joy to all that encounter us. To me, this is the essence of being a fully present being.
Shimmer
on.
Denise
