Follow the Energy. This is a line I learned from Alan Seale, a magnificent coach out on the East Coast. Over the last few weeks, I have found it most useful when I am working with clients looking at deep change.
Yesterday I worked with a brilliant college graduate who has phenomenal academic skills and is flustered about how to get out there and start working. We talked about the pressure to get a real, full time job and start the process of building a “grown up” life… making the money for a nice place to live, starting to accumulate furniture and building a home, and having money for clothes and entertainment. So alluring after four years as a struggling college student!
Yet there is the reality that we have many, many years of work and home building ahead of us and often the urge to anchor and settle is premature. It is my opinion that the 20’s are a time of exploration and mistakes, lessons, and experiences. All meant to practice skills discovered or transferred from other areas. For this student, it was important to look at transferring the strong skills in academics and performance into building skills in independence and deeper self awareness.
It was a beautiful process to capture on paper all the existing skills, passions, and challenges that came to mind during our call and then look at where the energy exists. The words sort of jump out in order when asked to present themselves…what is here, what wants more attention? Identifying the next skills to build became easy and then it turned into fun, as we talked about challenging the universe to unfold a path towards those skills. “Put it out there” was my advice, make some calls, post on Facebook, explore the internet and look for the energy. Where there is immediate response, step in and follow it. Allow the emerging energy to take you to a place you could not have dreamed of yourself. Allow yourself to be surprised, and then the most important part: Step into it! Let the energy guide you.
This is a practice. Opening up and asking for the next step, then paying attention with every fiber of your being and listening to the whispers, see the cues, and feel the coincidences. Feel the presence of joy. Follow the energy. Let it take you into the change you desire.
Life is an adventure, allow the adventure to happen.